The poem
The feelings I don't have I don't have. The feeling I don't have, I won't say I have. The feelings you say you have, you don't have. The feelings you would like us both to have, we neither of us have. The feelings people ought to have, they never have. If people say they've got feelings, you may be pretty sure they haven't got them. So if you want either of us to feel anything at all You'd better abandon all ideas of feelings altogether.
My sister e-mailed me this poem. It gets right to the point.
"So if you want either of us to feel anything at all
You'd better abandon all ideas of feelings altogether."
I guess i would change the last line to
"You'd better abandon the expectation of feelings."
David Perrings
Well, if you changed the last line, then you would be missing the point, which is to allow the heart the room to feel what it may without interference from the mind. This inerference is exactly what his "ideas of feelings" is referring to. Abandoning expectations is just more interference.